Recently, we were interviewed for a magazine article about transracial adoptive parenting and we decided to offer our written response to the interviewers questions here in full:
It’s not the same or as if, it’s different. If we think from this perspective then everything in adoption is normal.
JOY: There is nothing simple about adoption. If we accept that understanding adoption, race and identity is on a developmental continuum over an adoptee’s entire lifetime, then we see that an adoptee’s work is never done but evolving. The concept of the perfect checklist for an adoptive parent is void. There is no one checklist on how to do these conversations “right”, just like there are no two adoptees who are the same, no two families that are the same. I believe it is important that non-adopted white adoptive parents and the larger community understand the essential and expectable path that…
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